“I am free to be myself in any environment I please because I no longer accept judgment from others.”
“I do the best I can and no one is better at being me than I am.”
“My responsibility is to develop into who I am created to be, and only God can judge.”
Really, the only thing we can do is the best we can. There will always be standards others are expecting us to live up to, rules we’re expected to follow, societal contributions we are to make, and responsibilities to keep. Frankly, there’s not much we can do about that. If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent a good portion of your life going above and beyond the call of duty expecting to maybe one day be appreciated. That may or may not happen – not if we’re waiting for others to show that appreciation, that is. And that’s okay.
The next portion of our life is spent doing what needs to be done because of our own standards, the expectations we set for ourselves, and the desire to live in accordance with God’s Word. With maturity, we begin to move onto more reasonable ground where we understand more and more that the most important person that needs to appreciate us, is ourselves. We will work, but not into the ground. We will be kind, but not walked over. We will give, but not be ripped off. We will trust, but not be naive. And by God, we will be a part of your life, but we will not be judged.
Liberating, it is, to know that you can be a friend, employee, church member, spouse, colleague, and acquaintance, and be free to be yourself in any environment you please because you are no longer accepting judgment from others. You are comfortable and confident entering gatherings where people may or may not know you, and you’re open to socializing with them because you no longer fear judgment of others.
Imagine the difference it would make to finally be free of judgment by others. More than we know this insidious fear keeps us from connecting with others and out of opportunities that could actually be fulfilling to us. Be we often hold ourselves back, procrastinate, or don’t put our most confident foot forward because somewhere in the back of our minds we are dealing with a concern that we may come across in a way that causes us to be judged.
Really, the only thing we can do is the best we can. And there is no one better at being ourselves than we ourselves. Our responsibility is to live fully, grow exponentially, and follow God’s instructions to develop into who we are created to be. If we are all tending to our own problems, it leaves little time to dissect others’. When it is time to reflect on the value of our lives and whether we made the most of our experience here on Earth, rest assured, there is only One Judge. Let’s be grateful it’s a Loving One.