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Skill-Building Worksheets

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Use these worksheets to support the work that you are doing in session. By practicing your skills and completing exercises between sessions, you increase the likelihood of healthier thinking and behaviors coming more naturally.


Goals of Exercise:

  1. Identify negative, distorted cognitions that mediate intense negative emotions.
  2. Learn new ways to think that are more adaptive.
  3. Replace negative thoughts with more positive, realistic interpretations of situations.
  4. Replace dichotomous thinking with the ability to tolerate ambiguity and complexity in people and issues.

Goals of Exercise:

  1. Develop an awareness of the irrational nature of the fear and anxiety.
  2. Examine the probability of the negative expectation occurring and its consequences.
  3. Identify distorted self-talk that mediates the anxiety response.
  4. Recognize that the feared outcome will not terminate the ability to function.
  5. Resolve the core conflict that is the source of the anxiety.

Goals of Exercise:

  1. Identify successful coping strategies used in the past.
  2. View yourself as a capable, resourceful person who has been successful at overcoming fear.
  3. Apply successful coping strategies from the past to current anxieties.
  4. Enhance ability to effectively cope with the full variety of life’s anxieties.

Goals of Exercise:

  1. Develop and implement a daily ritual that interrupts the current pattern of compulsions.
  2. Reduce interference from or time involved with obsessions and compulsions.
  3. Function daily at a consistent level with minimal interference from obsessions and compulsions.

Goals of Exercise:

  1. Identify and develop specific strategies to resolve the fear.
  2. Implement a specific strategy on a consistent basis to minimize the impact of the fear.
  3. Increase confidence and effectiveness in coping with the fear.
  4. Reduce fear of the specific stimulus object or situation that previously provoked phobic anxiety.

Goals of Exercise:

  1. Verbalize an understanding of the relationship between distorted thinking and negative emotions.
  2. Learn key concepts regarding types of distorted thinking.
  3. Apply key concepts regarding distorted thinking to own experience.
  4. Identify and replace cognitive self-talk that is engaged in to support depression.

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ADULT PSYCHOTHERAPY HOMEWORK BY JONGSMA CORRESPONDS WITH APPROPRIATE DIAGNOSIS & TREATMENT PLAN. THIS INFO IS NOT MENTAL HEALTH ADVICE. DISCUSS YOUR SYMPTOMS WITH A QUALIFIED PROFESSIONAL.

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FOR USE BY CLIENTS OF INNER RENOVATIONS COUNSELING, PLLC.
ADULT PSYCHOTHERAPY HOMEWORK BY JONGSMA CORRESPONDS WITH APPROPRIATE DIAGNOSIS & TREATMENT PLAN. THIS INFO IS NOT MENTAL HEALTH ADVICE. DISCUSS YOUR SYMPTOMS WITH A QUALIFIED PROFESSIONAL.

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Free From the Blame Game

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BLAME is an interesting tool that works two ways.  It is the proverbial double-edged sword.

On one end it can be pointed towards others to shift responsibility away from yourself.

The other end can be turned on yourself to take responsibility for things that aren’t your fault.

I suppose that’s why its closely related to one of the “Unhelpful Thinking Styles” in CBT called PersonalizationAn event happens that you view as your fault or another person’s fault when really it was no one’s. The reality is that someone does not always have to be at fault.  There does not always have to be someone to blame. 

Do you need to release yourself or anyone else from blame and shame about things that have passed and cannot be changed?  Is it time to forgive the past and accept the present?

Repeat this thought every once in awhile to start releasing yourself and others from blame and shame that is causing you pain:

“I FORGIVE YOU. I FORGIVE ME.”

Surprise, You’re Human

Nobody is perfect.  This isn’t news.  Yet, when we make mistakes, we hold ourselves to the most ridiculous standards of perfection.  As if you’re never supposed to feel awkward, or have an embarrassing moment, or mess up really really badly sometimes.  If people could hear the way you talk to yourself in your head, I bet they would say “WHOA! Take it easy – that’s kind of abusive.”  The inner-dialogue of some individuals is nothing short of verbally and emotionally abusive. Self-abusive.  It’s easy to spot when someone else is doing it, but is it as noticeable when you’re doing it to yourself?

Learn to stay friends with yourself even when you make a mistake.  There are so many people in your life that already do a great job at making you feel like a jerk.  They don’t need your help.  Why join the opposing team (the naysayers, haters, and negative-nancys) who love seeing you down?  Somebody has to stay in your corner, and who better than you!?  You know yourself better than anyone.  You know what you’ve been through.  You don’t take your experiences out of context because you know the WHOLE story from front to end.  That in and of itself is enough to garner your own respect because through it all YOU ARE STILL STANDING!  Maybe a little dusty from a few rolls in the dirt but STANDING NO LESS!

Make sure your inner-dialogue sounds something like the way you’d talk to a child you love.  You’d want that little kid to know that we all make mistakes sometimes and that things can go better the next time.  It would break your heart to see them give up and check out from embarrassment.  Wouldn’t you step in and let them know they are more than this slip-up?  Encourage yourself in the same way.  Tell yourself to brush your shoulders off and get back to being amazing.

Give yourself permission to be human.  Practice telling yourself “I’m okay.”  Cool little snippets like, “This too shall pass” work wonders when you’re having to “Push through” difficult moments.  Take yourself seriously enough, but not too seriously.  I mean, how boring would it be if we didn’t have something silly to look back on and laugh at sometimes?  Be willing to be silly, to look silly, and to shake your head at it and be on your way.

We’re so good at putting pressure on ourselves.  How good are we at taking some off?  Maybe as a mini-practice we could go through the rest of this week noticing our little faux-pas (which are kind of inevitable), and instead of getting in a tizzy about it, we remind ourselves of how awesome it is to be human.

Get Up to Get Over the Blahs

run to improve mood

I’m no cardio freak.  But there is something about going for a run (especially when I’m experiencing a depressed mood) that lifts my spirits.  I’ve decided that it’s the deep breathing and focus that comes along with it.  It’s therapeutic.  Aside from it now being evidenced-based that exercise and physical activity reduces symptoms of anxiety and depression, I’d noticed early in life that I just feel better when I get up and get going.

Life is a beautiful place to be, but sometimes circumstances can be overwhelming, responsibilities can be intense, and people can be demanding.  I won’t even get into the pressure we put on OURSELVES – that’s a whole other story.  Even the toughest of minds and strongest of spirits go through periods that involve:

  • FATIGUE AND BLAHNESS
  • LOSS OF MOTIVATION
  • LACK OF CONFIDENCE
  • DECREASED INTEREST
  • JADEDNESS AND CYNICISM
  • AIMLESSNESS
  • [enter miscellaneous frustrating experience here]

It really is a challenge getting back on track once we find ourselves in that sort of space. But the show must go on, and find our way we must.  In my opinion, there is no better pick-me-up than to get more oxygen to the brain, get the blood flowing, get a boost of adrenaline and endorphins, and other fantastic features of getting a good workout on.  Yes, health and wellness, physical fitness, optimum body weight and all that.  But this is about feeling better.

Regardless of how much weight we lose (or don’t lose), or how many trophies we win (or not), it just feels good to get going.  Before we know it, we remember that we are blessed to be able to move our bodies.  And if there are parts of your body that don’t move so well, do what you can.  The goal is to overcome a momentary slump and working through inertia by working ourselves out.  It works our confidence out.  It works our go-get-it-ness out.  It works our mind, body and spirit out.

Dancing in the living room, going for a walk in the neighborhood, actually using that gym membership we pay for, running around with the kids, are all great ways to get ourselves into a better mood by getting up and going.

Juice Cleanse and Detox: Mind, Spirit, and Body Refresher

It’s amazing the clarity that comes during a juice cleanse and detox. Today is the final day, and although it was a brief detox, a lot happened over the past three days. There were plenty of times that I thought I was hungry (since there is no solid food during this time). Then I realized that I was actually getting all of the nutrients that I need, so it wasn’t that I was physically hungry – I’m just in the habit of eating.

Juice Cleanse and Detox

My 13 Top Reasons for Eating (none of which are hunger)

I eat to cheer myself up.

I eat to calm myself down.

I eat to celebrate.

I eat because other people are eating.

I eat because something looks good.

I eat because something smells good.

I eat because it’s offered to me.

I eat because it just seems like it’s time to eat.

I eat when I’m bored.

I eat to keep my hands busy while I’m watching T.V.

I eat to keep from falling asleep.

I eat to wake myself up.

I – JUST – EAT.

Luckily, I am a health and wellness enthusiast, so I exercise regularly and try to make wise choices about what I eat (most of the time). If I didn’t, there’s no telling what sort of health concerns I’d be facing right now.

Benefits to Mental Health and Physical Health

The experience has helped me to develop a better a relationship with my body and an understanding of the areas that I need I need more discipline in. While I attended a cookout, accompanied people enjoying their great-smelling fastfood breakfast, and turned down the most delicious chocolate chip cookie-dough cupcakes I’ve ever seen (all while guzzling down my beet, carrot, and kale blend juices), I realized that the level of discipline that I am cultivating will optimize my behaviors in more than just the health realm but in several other areas of my life too.

In general, making smart food choices and focusing more on wellness has many other benefits:

  • Improves decision-making skills
  • Improves focus and concentration
  • Increases self-awareness and body-awareness
  • Improves ability to stay present in the moment
  • Develops ability to set goals and accomplish with birds eye view
  • Helps spiritual cultivation through fasting and prayer (to name a few).

This Is About More Than Food

What I realized during VIVA-RAW’S 3-DAY RAW FOOD JUICE CLEANSE is that RARELY DO I EAT BECAUSE I’M SIMPLY HUNGRY. My patterns and reasons for eating teetered more on the social and psychological side than the physical. Though I have practiced mindfulness regularly for many years, during this detox I realized that I also need to be practicing mindful eating.

I thought the idea of applying mindfulness methods to my food choices and eating patterns was revolutionary and original – but as I googled the concept, I quickly realized that it was not. Psychologist Dr. Susan Albers has built her body of work around the subject and offers some amazing ideas and resources to Eating Mindfully (which consequently is the actual name of her website and project).  The Awareness Checklist and other great resources are available on her site.  Works out great for me because it’s less I have to research and write about and more that I can just learn and apply. Find out more about what the doctor has to say on the subject. I know I will be!

From Dr. Susan Anders www.eatingmindfully.com

A holistic approach to wellness requires that we address all aspects of our being, meaning that we are engaging in activities and behaviors that foster great health on all levels of our multidimensional selves.  Just as we learn to choose wisely what we take into our bodies, we learn to do the same with what we accept into our hearts, spirits, and minds.

~ CCB

youth.

It was under there the whole time.

I took it for dead, not looking past the wooden casing that symbolized

that its work had been done, its battle had been won. But not the war.

Maybe a part of me wanted it to be over, to lay it to rest.

I was exhausted and so was my youth.

But no sooner had I made peace with our last days together,

did the thunder clap a rhythm that brought us back to life

like a cosmic defibrillator.

It wasn’t over. There was still more to love. Still more to war.

I’ll mistake you for dead again, my youth.

I’ll believe the murmuring of the crowd and the mirror’s lies,

long enough to accept it as truth.

But you won’t let me.

For another hundred years tiny rocks will sneak into my sandals

as my calves ache and my thighs burn from the climb.

And you’ll tell me that I love it.

I’ll vehemently deny you, and bury you

and attempt to prove that I can’t take another step.

Until I am waking up to us dancing to that eternal rhythm,

telling you that I love it.

Grateful that you are always there.