BLAME is an interesting tool that works two ways. It is the proverbial double-edged sword.
On one end it can be pointed towards others to shift responsibility away from yourself.
The other end can be turned on yourself to take responsibility for things that aren’t your fault.
I suppose that’s why its closely related to one of the “Unhelpful Thinking Styles” in CBT called Personalization – An event happens that you view as your fault or another person’s fault when really it was no one’s. The reality is that someone does not always have to be at fault. There does not always have to be someone to blame.
Do you need to release yourself or anyone else from blame and shame about things that have passed and cannot be changed? Is it time to forgive the past and accept the present?
Repeat this thought every once in awhile to start releasing yourself and others from blame and shame that is causing you pain:
“I FORGIVE YOU. I FORGIVE ME.”